Sunday, May 5, 2013

love, truth, virtue and beauty



“What is man’s ultimate direction in life? 
It is to look for love, truth, virtue, and beauty”
Shinichi Suzuki


Kate is performing her Suzuki book one cello recital this weekend.  She will perform all of the music she has learned in cello by memory.   It feels like we have reached a bridge, one that had been far in the distance.  As she crosses it there are exciting opportunities and learning for all of us on the other side.  I have been one of her biggest cheer leaders...but sometimes I feel like her greatest handicap.  As we sit in lessons together I am reminded over and over again how limited I am in being her guide through this learning.  There are so many aspects to pay attention to---position, bowing, rhythm, fingering...the smallest adjustment can make such a big difference.  I often imagine what it would be like for her if I knew what I was doing.  But through this process we are learning together---seeking improvement, enjoying the work, developing a love for the music and appreciating the opportunity.  Learning those things side by side, as mother and daughter, might be even more important than the music itself- because through this our love for each other, life and music deepens.

Sunday, April 7, 2013

flying kites for Conference

There is a General Conference held twice a year for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latterday Saints.  They really are two of my favorite weekends of the year.  The messages from church leaders are like food for the soul to me.  And having the opportunity to attend church anywhere that the radio/internet can be found is an added bonus!

We decided to enjoy conference at Antelope Island.  It is one of my favorite locations in this beautiful state.  And it is within an hour of our home!  It really has an oceanic feeling to me---even though this salty water is not crashing on the shore.  In fact it is quite stagnate and filled with brine shrimp. 

One of the lessons that stood out strongest for me amidst the flood of wisdom from the conference was regarding the gift of childhood.  

 A young father recently learned of the passing of his extraordinary second-grade teacher. In memory of her, he wrote: “Of all the feelings and experiences I remember, the feeling most prevalent in my mind is ‘comfort.’ She may have taught me spelling, grammar, and math, but far more importantly she taught me to love being a child. In her classroom, it was OK to spell a word wrong here and there; ‘We’ll work on it,’ she’d say. It was OK to spill or tear or smudge; ‘We’ll fix it and we’ll clean it up,’ she would respond. It was OK to try, OK to stretch, OK to dream, and OK to enjoy those pleasures that come from the insignificant things that only children find exciting.”

One of the greatest influences a person can have in this world is to influence a child. Children’s beliefs and self-worth are shaped early in their lives. Everyone within the sound of my voice has the power to increase a child’s confidence in himself or herself and to increase a child’s faith in Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ through the words they speak.  The Words We Speak by Rosemary M. Wixom


Sometimes I feel like it is my job to notice and address wherever we (my family and I) are falling short- as if that is helpful, encouraging or inspiring.  The lines of what is important and worth correcting are sometimes blurred for me.  I am sorry to say---after listening to this wonderful talk---I realized that I spend too much time, worry and concern over made beds, homework and music practice.  I also went away feeling like I want to improve on encouraging words, more time at the foot of our daughters beds-tucking them in at night and more evening walks as a family holding Danny's hand.  If I take the lead on being helpful and encouraging instead of turning mistakes into teaching moments the love will increase in our home...and in our hearts.

I love what Elder Holland shared in the same meeting-

  So be kind regarding human frailty—your own as well as that of those who serve with you in a Church led by volunteer, mortal men and women. Except in the case of His only perfect Begotten Son, imperfect people are all God has ever had to work with. That must be terribly frustrating to Him, but He deals with it. So should we. And when you see imperfection, remember that the limitation is not in the divinity of the work. As one gifted writer has suggested, when the infinite fulness is poured forth, it is not the oil’s fault if there is some loss because finite vessels can’t quite contain it all. Those finite vessels include you and me, so be patient and kind and forgiving. Lord I Believe by Elder Jeffrey R Holland

It is important to be kind and gentle to our loved ones, friends and neighbors...but also to ourselves-focusing on the goodness in ourselves and others; spend time together enjoying one another's company...without agenda or judgement.  

This particular Sunday we enjoyed Antelope Island.  We had sunshine on our backs and joyful children at our feet.  I noticed the neglected kites we own, stacked in a corner of the garage, and decided to throw them in the trunk before we left.  The girls were thrilled to carry them out to the sandy beach.  The wind was gentle and I wasn't sure that they would fly that day.  Their enthusiasm was contagious and we began assembling.  We discussed string length and wind direction.  We held the kite in the air as they took off running into the lazy breeze.  As they ran the kite lifted!  They ran and ran and ran and ran.  As the kites soared and their smiles grew my soul was fed once again.  It was just one more reminder of the gift it is to know and love a child- filled with joy, easy to love and beautiful people to emulate.


other Conference thoughts here and here.


Thursday, February 28, 2013

lil' Finn


...a blessing straight from heaven...
our sweet nephew Finneus was born
on February 27th
 



Tuesday, February 5, 2013

love


"One guiding truth about life is that what you offer to others, you strengthen within yourself." 
Becky A. Bailey, Ph.D.

We had a few difficult days last month, Sophie and I.  She was testing limits and boundaries and I was tired.  I browsed our bookshelf one night before bed and gathered a few parenting books we have.  I set them beside our bed.  Finally, this morning, when our house was quiet...and Sophie's episode is temporarily over...I picked up a favorite- I Love You Rituals.

I followed the instructions found on page 6:
"Stop reading this book for a moment.  Think about your children and how much you love them.  If they are at school or a room nearby, just wish them well.  From your mind and heart, allow the feelings to overflow and send them a silent blast of love."

I am not sure whether my children and husband felt the "blast of love" I sent their way this morning...but I know that I did.  A warmth seemed to fill the room and peace settled in my heart.  I continued reading-

"You offered your children love and security by wishing them well, and you yourself welled up with love.  The same is true when we offer criticism and blame.  When we see what is lacking in others, what they are not doing, and what is wrong with the world, we simultaneously feel lacking.  You cannot go through your day seeing what is wrong and go to bed happy."

I tend to be task oriented.  I am often found reminding my family members what is yet to be done in a day.  I tend to focus on what needs to change or improve.  How much more motivating and happy would we be if the focus shifted to the people we are...the love we share...and the growth we have made?  I want to greet my family today, when they return home from school and work, with love and attention...eyes fixed on one another...ears open...holding hands.  I want to fill the atmosphere with questions instead of commands.  I want home to a place of refuge and a place of love.  This book set me on that path this morning.

photo: taken on the Brooklyn Bridge Jan. 1, 2011

Friday, January 25, 2013

stop everyday...


I stepped into her room to ask her a question.  She had only been home for 15 minutes.  Her uniform was off.  Her feet were up.  She was reading a book on her tiny ipod/kindle.  She had friends, the stuffed variety, close.  Slippers ready at her side.  The scene made me so happy that I snapped a quick picture.

instagram HERE.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

one year and 13 days


We are one year and 13 days apart...
We have always had each other for as long as either of us can remember...
Which is one of the things I am most grateful for~

Happy birthday Dede!
xoxo

instagram post HERE.

Monday, January 21, 2013

a weekend in Huntsville


One of our very favorite families, the Freemans, invited us to their vacation home in Huntsville!
It was a weekend filled with great friends, food, games, tubing, ice skating and laughing!
Thank you Tom and  Jenny!!!!
xoxoxo  






Saturday, January 19, 2013