It was her birthday and we were talking about how many years until she was an adult. (That traumatic conversation was NOT my idea!) When I said "7 years" out loud I almost had an anxiety attack! 7 years...that is NOTHING! We have lived in this home for 10 years...and that moves seems like yesterday. I am not sure if it was the panic in my eyes (I was trying to disguise the horror) she quickly reminded me...that she is moving in the basement when she is 18 and has elaborate plans for a remodel! Phew! Happy 11 year old birthday!
Miles above the earth, flying around 600 mph is where I recently found the insight and inspiration to BE STILL. I was sitting in the middle seat on our flight home from Washington DC. Danny and I had enjoyed the most wonderful time. I was anxious to get home, hug our girls, check on Mozart and dig into the crazy schedule of the coming week. My book was boring me so I turned to the monitor in front of my seat. After a few games of Solitaire (and frankly not playing very well) I continued to browse the monitor. I found TEDtalks, which almost always interest me. I sat in my seat and listened to THIS talk.
"So, in an age of acceleration,nothing can be more exhilarating than going slow.And in an age of distraction,nothing is so luxurious as paying attention.And in an age of constant movement,nothing is so urgent as sitting still." -Pico Iyer
I have recognized the value of stillness many many times...a heart of peace after attending the temple, a clear head after a yoga session, prayer, enjoying a quiet walk. One of the stillness ideas that inspired him was an Internet Sabbath- a full day completely unplugging from electronic devices. As I listened to him, I was re-energized in taking stillness seriously. Lately I have felt distracted and busy, feeling like my wheels were spinning at maximum speed, yet I was staying still. In seat 40F I made some quick decisions to put this into practice in my life and not just recognize it as a good idea. Some ideas I want to experiment with---
Internet Sabbath- I will turn off electronic devices on Sunday, my family is already with me and it is the weekday I already enjoy recognizing as the Sabbath.
wake up-until kids leave for school...leave devices alone and use cell phone on a need basis (no internet browsing)
3:00 p.m. (when the girls get home) and later just use my cell phone as needed (texting, communication, etc...)
9:00 p.m. turn my devices (iPad and phone) in for the night. If my phone rings or a text dings attend to it...but other than that leave it alone (aka don't waste an hour browsing Instagram, Facebook, Pintrest, etc...)
wake up, do morning pages (I love these and learned this practice from The Artist's Way and I have let it go lately), prayer and scriptures (study by topic with paper scriptures and journal instead of iPad)
We are going to watch this talk as a family tonight. What everybody needs as far as creating stillness in their lives is COMPLETELY different. I look forward to learning what Danny and the girls feel like they can do to apply this for them.
This morning my scripture study was STILLNESS. I found Exodus 14:3. The Lord turned the hearts of the Egyptians against the people of Israel so that they would know that HE is the Lord. The children of Israel flee with Moses into the wilderness. They feel trapped, the Egyptians have "marched after them." The children of Israel lamented to Moses- they would rather live in servitude to the Egyptian than me killed by them! Moses gave them the reminder I found on the plane last night-
"Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the Lord...The Lord shall fight for you and ye shall hold your peace."
I may not walk across the Red Sea on dry ground BUT I will be led, protected and guided if I like Moses-
SEE the divinity of the Lord
update: Danny loved the talk but the other girls weren't sure if they understood it. They did come up with an idea after we discussed the talk... Danny- spend more quiet time while driving, find time to step away from his phone Ellie- create alone time every day Kate- spend time in the backyard every day Sophie- spend time reading
Sophie was playing at a friend's house. The mom called and asked me to come down because Sophie was hurt. When I got there Sophie was crying and holding a paper towel to her head. She had joined two of her friends on a hammock and fell straight off landing on her head. I carried her to my car and stopped at our house hoping Kate would come with us to Instacare. "Kate will you grab ice?" I requested. She came back quickly with a ziplock bag of ice and Sophie's stuffed animal Vinci. It was so sweet of her to consider Sophie's comfort. That stuffed animal helped alleviate Kate's nerves as doctor's and nurses discussed the staples that would be required to close her wound. She was brave, Kate was helpful and the doctor was kind...and Vinci never left her side.
Just last week your little sisters were discussing when they could move into the bedroom closest to your room. You asked me how long it would be until you were grown up. (In your mind that was age 18.) "Five years Mom...they can move in there in 5 years!" My heart almost stopped when I realized it is ONLY FIVE YEARS before you become an adult. Five years goes by in the blink of an eye.
It had been a long day for all of us. We seem to be headed to bed later than we want to every single night. I was hoping to kiss them good night with a prompt lights out! Something told me to sit at the end of Sophie's bed and ask her more about her day. "Sophie, tell me one of the feelings you felt today..." I prompted. She had been happy at home since arriving home from school, I wasn't worried about anything in particular. "I felt sad." She described a small problem she had with a friend at school. Although I knew it was small and would probably be different the next day without any action from her- she felt like it was a BIG deal...and was truly heart broken. Given her happy demeanor at home I had no idea how sad she had been just a few hours earlier. I was so grateful for that prompting to sit, ask and listen.
After she and I talked about it for a few minutes- I asked her big sister if she had ever had a similar experience. She shared some feelings about friendships that let Sophie know that she wasn't alone- is there anything better than being part of a family who loves you? I feel SO lucky to have this family of ours.
"Believe in God; believe that He is, and that he created all things, both in heaven and in earth; believe that he has all wisdom, and all power, both in heaven and in earth; believe that man doth not comprehend all the things which the Lord can comprehend." Mosiah 4:9